Danny ChaiI once read something that I thought was extremely enlightening. I think I’ve written about this before. But it said how if you want to know how someone really is, or rather, how they will be with their future family (i.e. how good a father or mother they will be) you need to look at how they are with their current family. Because how they are with their family is how they are when they’re unguarded, with people they’ve known their entire lives. It’s much more accurate than looking at how they are with their friends. Obviously, there are exceptions to this, but I think there’s some wisdom in it.
Conversely, I think you can tell how you will be with your family based on how you are with your family now, in large part. Meaning, I think it’s fallacious to say, oh, I have trouble communicating with my family now, but with my own family, it will be much different. I don’t know, I just think to make it true with your own family, you have to make it possible with your current family, else it will just be a repeated cycle. Maybe you’re not with me on this, but I just think it’s faulty to think that’s it’s impossible now, but it will be possible later.
Like I said, I think there’s some wisdom in that, and it means I better be a better son.