John and Dating

John and I kind of agree on the dating thing but kind of not. I think the main difference is this: I think there needs to be a way for guys and girls to be intentional about getting to know each other that doesn’t require engagement, and that this should be encouraged. In other words, I support dating. I think John would deny this. If guys and girls want to get to know each other, they should just let that happen in the context or community or whatever. No intentionality about it. If there is intentionality, it should lead toward marriage. This is, I think, essentially what courtship is and what I’m against.

I’ve been surprised at how many people have mentioned how they agree about this. Where are the critics? Come on, slam me, that’s what I wanted.