I 100% agree with Vanderpool. 100%. For the life of me, I cannot understand women who supposedly want their men to be leaders but then subvert that and make it difficult or impossible for their men to do that by belittling them or overcriticizing them, especially in front of others. I don’t understand that at all, and every time I see it, it just makes me cringe. It should come as no surprise or disappointment when these women’s husbands fail to be leaders. They’re virtually asking for it.
But yeah, I do think this is a cultural curse that can be broken. I see a lot of progress in our generation. And like I thank my lucky stars pretty much on a daily basis that Jieun is not like that at all, she’s pretty much the most supportive wife a man could ask for, and there’s zero hyperbole in that statement.
And for myself I pray for the grace to overcome the negative stereotypes of the Korean male. Because God knows we men have plenty of our own cultural curses to deal with. But you reap what you sow.