Danny ChaiI had this discussion with contactdp about intellectual compatibility recently. By intellectual compatibility, I don’t mean similar intelligence, but more the pattern or style of thinking, and how important it is for a couple to think the same way.
Personally, I think it’s not that important, beyond a certain minimum. Jieun and I think pretty differently. And yes, that leads to some misunderstanding and disagreements. But I dunno, I personally believe that men and women just fundamentally think differently, so it’s unavoidable. I actually think that women who seem to think like men are even harder to understand, because they might have the appearance of thinking similarly, but they’re still women at heart, so it leads to extra frustration.
What I like about Jieun and me is that our different thinking styles allow us to reach to a broader spectrum of people. There are certain people Jieun is really great at interacting with that I just can’t hold a conversation with. And there are people I’m sure that I can have long convos with about boring topics like the coming extinction of Cavendish bananas that Jieun finds boring. It’s a good partnership.
Anyway, during the convo Jieun came by and I was trying to explain what we were talking about, intellectual compatibility, and how I thought she and I thought differently, and she didn’t get what I was saying. I kept trying, and she didn’t understand. In the end, she had to ask me to give her an example. And I responded, “Like right now!” Dave thought it was pretty funny.