One thing though is, we have different ideas on the activities we want our kids to do. What I realized is that we want our kids to be raised like we were, and I guess we’ll see how that plays out. Like, you know, music was a big part of my life, and I want it to be a big part of my kids’. I want them to take piano lessons and also learn some other ensemble instrument. So they learn both about soloing and working in a group. They can do the soccer thing like I did, whatever, but sports in general not a big deal.
Sports is a big deal to Jieun. She’s big on them playing little league, the most boring of youth sports for parents to watch. SN. When I was like 6 my mom apparently registered me in a flag football league or something like that with a friend. I have no recollection of it. She says I would spend the entire time looking up at the sky while balls thrown to me bounced off my torso. I would rather watch that than little league.
I dunno, I like the soccer thing because it’s almost all lower body. You sprain an ankle or get a charlie horse, no big whoop, doesn’t affect piano playing. But start using your hands and it gets dangerous. I dunno.
Anyway yeah, I realized neither of views is really more right than the other’s, it’s just what we’re used to. I guess a lot of marriage things are like that and it’s worked out OK so far. We’ll see how it goes with kids.