There’s another effect at play related to why it’s easier for Jieun to get along with my friends than me with hers. I’ve written about this before, but I have this weirdo complex where I don’t like the feeling of intruding on relationships. So if I meet a friend (B) of a friend (A), in my mind B will always be classified as a friend of A, so it will take me a long time if it ever even happens to become friends with B, because I don’t to intrude on A’s relationship with B. This intrusion thing is a really big deal to me.

So I’ll pretty much never be good friends with Jieun’s friends, just more friends of friends. And that’s OK.